Dementia affects memory, thinking, mood and, over time, everyday abilities. In many families it is still misunderstood or put down to "old age". With patience and a few practical changes, many people with dementia can live well at home for a long time.
Keep a steady routine
Doing things at the same time and in the same order each day, such as waking, washing, meals and rest, reduces confusion and anxiety. Write the day's plan on a board or calendar where it can be seen.
Communicate with kindness
- Speak slowly and clearly, and use short sentences.
- Ask one question at a time, and give simple choices.
- Avoid arguing or correcting. If they believe it is a different year, gently go along with it and change the subject.
- Use their first language. Many people lose a second language before their mother tongue.
Make the home safer
- Remove trip hazards such as loose mats and cables, and improve lighting, especially at night.
- Lock away medicines, chemicals and sharp items.
- Consider safety knobs or a gas cut-off if cooking has become risky.
- Label cupboards and doors with words or pictures.
Understand changes in behaviour
Restlessness, wandering or anger are often a sign of an unmet need: pain, hunger, needing the toilet, boredom or feeling lost. Try to find the cause before trying to stop the behaviour.
Keep them connected
Music, old photographs, familiar hymns, gardening and simple household tasks can bring comfort and a sense of purpose. Visits from friends and church members remain important.
Look after yourself too
Caring for someone with dementia is demanding, and family carers often become exhausted. Share the load among relatives, and arrange regular breaks. Respite care lets you rest while your loved one stays safe at home.
When to get professional help
If your loved one is no longer safe alone, is not eating, is missing medication, or caring is affecting your own health, it is time to get support. Our carers are trained in dementia awareness and provide consistent, familiar faces. Learn about our dementia care.
